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How to Develop the Right Weight Loss Mindset

Monday, July 13th, 2009

I have met a talented writer, Mari Jarrell, who has written a guest post for us today. I hope you will enjoy it and learn from it. She has a lot to share.

We spend a lot of time trying to lose weight by resisting urges, getting motivated for workouts and by fighting to do the right thing. But has it ever occurred to you that this might not be the best way to begin a new weight loss regime? When losing weight, having the right mindset is almost as important as what you do physically. The easiest weight loss will not come from a different diet or exercise routine; it will come from a positive attitude. Don’t believe it? Have you ever had a major life changing event and find that weight loss just came naturally? This was not because your body magically required less food; it was because your mind was in a different place. So, to learn how to develop your weight loss mindset, keep reading and we’ll give you some tips.
The first step in creating the right mindset to lose weight is to build a strong desire to succeed. You must do this because anything you want in life has always begun with the desire; it is what allows you to enter the growth process. In order to build a strong desire you need to decide exactly what you want to gain, whether it is to lose five pounds, to start working out every day, or to start eating better – all of it starts with the right mindset. I recommend taking a few minutes and making a list of the reasons you want to lose weight as it will be easier to maintain your healthy mindset if the reasons are right in front of you when times get tough.
The second way to develop and maintain your weight losing mindset is to make a commitment to yourself. This commitment will be a promise to keep working hard to be successful with your goals. If you think you may have trouble keeping a commitment, it is a good idea to find a partner, such as a significant other or close friend, to keep you motivated when times get tough.

Another important step in this journey is to mentally build your own self worth. This means not beating yourself up every time you stray from your diet, because everyone gets off track once in a while. This also means not getting depressed or upset after stepping on the scale and not being satisfied with the numbers you see. Instead, remind yourself that the numbers shown now are only temporary, because you are working to change. Remember that if your happiness is directly tied to your weight or dieting or dieting success, your journey is going to be very difficult. Make things easier by stopping negative thoughts about your body and focus on the positive work you are doing to improve your health.
Another important step in building a strong, positive mindset for losing weight is to remember to be flexible and be realistic with your goals. Keep in mind that life is not going to slow down so that you can focus all of your energy on losing weight; therefore, it is necessary for you to become flexible so that when things do not go as planned, you can still stay on course and remain focused on your ultimate goal. Also, be realistic by setting small, weekly goals for yourself rather than one huge and long term goal. For example, make the commitment to make three trips to the gym per week instead of telling yourself that you will go to the gym every day until you lose a ‘x’ amount of weight. Extreme goals are harder and have a higher failure rate because you will become frustrated with yourself more quickly; smaller goals will keep you positive, happy, and working hard.
These few little steps will create for you a strong weight loss mindset that supports your efforts completely and will naturally lead your life on a path to better habits and behaviors. Just remember to fill your mind with new and positive thoughts, and to push the negative ones right out. Maintaining a positive attitude and mindset is truly the secret to weight loss, and now you have the tools to be successful too.
Mari Jarrell is a beginning writer for the Predator Nutrition Blog where she currently writes about Sports Nutrition. She can be reached at marij37 @ gmail.com with your comments and questions.

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Be the Weight You Want and Stay There | Reflections on 2008

Monday, February 2nd, 2009

After being online for a year, I began thinking about this blog.  What is my theme?  What is my purpose? Who do I write it for?

Well, first of all “be the weight you want” means two things.  One is that you can be slimmer – you do not have to be as heavy as you are.  Second is that you can choose your weight goal.  You do not have to choose a weight from some sort of chart  that tells you your ‘ideal’ weight.  You will know when you are at your ideal weight. You will feel healthy, stronger, and have more energy.  “And Stay There? ” Well, what is the use of losing the weight if you are going to put it right back  on.

I guess the main reason I write these posts is to share with other people like me – men or women – what I have learned through my life experiences and situations and also what I have learned about weight loss.  I didn’t just put weight on.  I became very depressed in my life, my marriage to an alcoholic.  I went from 100 lbs to 130 lbs over 5 years (and had two children during that time).  After my divorce, I was able to lose back down to 105 lbs.

Then I found myself in a marriage with a very controlling person.  He was very adamant that his wife not put on weight.  My way of rebellion was to slip out and eat Mexican foods and anything else.  When events happened to end the marriage, I again fell into depression.  I felt like I was a total failure in my life in every aspect of my life.  Eating was enjoyable and made me ‘feel’ better.  Going on with life, my social life became eating out with friends.  Year after year my weight went up.  I would ‘diet’ once in a while and lose some weight, then put it back on plus.

When I found myself feeling weak and tired all the time with no ambition or energy, I finally made a huge step.  I got on a program where I buy the food from them, it is portioned correctly, has the correct nutrients, and has the correct calories.  This is what worked for me.  But more than that, I met with a mentor once a week to weigh in and  talk. I had to realise and BELIEVE that I deserve to be healthy, and slim.  That I have the ability to lose the weight.  That I need to change my relationship with  food and my view of myself.

One of the first things I had to change was my ’self-talk’.  I had to stop downgrading myself.  When things disappointed me, I could not beat myself black and blue over it (verbally).  Then I had to realize that the amount of food I was eating was the correct food to keep my body healthy.  It contained everything my  body needed during the day.  Next, I had to start realizing why I was  ‘hungry’ when I felt hungry.  Was I sad, angry, excited, bored, nervous, etc?  Or maybe even thirsty.  Besides changing habits, I needed to find alternate ways to deal with these emotions.

Who is this blog for?  It is for anyone who can learn from it.  Since I weight 200% of what they say my ‘ideal’ weight is, I guess it would be  for seriously overweight people who do not have a medical reason for their weight problem – and maybe even for them also.  It would be for the people who share my emotional eating patterns, for the people whose self-image and self-worth is bad and skewed, for the people who eat to socialize, and for the people who have tried to lose weight unsuccessfully.

If anyone reads a post and a light bulb goes on “Hey, that is true for me.  I can change that”, then this blog has fulfilled its purpose.

I hope that you will browse through the site index.  There is a lot of good content – real content – that might help you or someone you care about.

Please, feel free to leave a comment.

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