Posts Tagged ‘Self Confidence’

Good News: Succeed at Weight Loss/Gain

Sunday, November 30th, 2008
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How can you reach your weight loss/gain goal?  Just as there are simple rules that cannot be changed to lose weight, there is one rule to succeed.  ‘The only way you can fail is to quit.’

I heard this in regards to starting an online business.  Thinking about it, I realized that this is true in my weight loss also.  I did so well when I started the last time.  I lost almost 30 pounds.  The length of time it took me to lose it really doesn’t matter unless I am trying to spin it to sell something.  The thing that matters is that I lost it.  Then I gained it back, or most of it.  The good news is I was gaining about 10 pounds a year previous to the last year and a half.  Then I started taking a medication that some people gain 20 pounds a year on.  I still am under my starting weight.

Why am I boring you with my story?  Not because I am proud of it.  I feel a bit ashamed to admit it.  I am telling you this so you realize – just because you gain some weight (or lose if you are trying to gain) is NO reason to quit.  In fact, just because you reach your goal is no reason to quit (or you might back slide, so you have to maintain).

What I can say is  I am more aware of what I eat and why I eat.  Everyday I realize what I eat that is outside my eating plan – it may be a ‘permitted’ food, but over the calories or just foods that I shouldn’t eat to continue to lose.

If I am going to be of any help to anyone reading this, I must be honest.  And being honest to you I have to be honest with myself.  That makes me accountable since I care what my readers feel.  Each of you are a unique and precious individual.  Each of you deserves to reach your healthy goal.  And every pound we gain or lose towards our goal makes us healthier.  It boosts our self-image and self-confidence.

So remember when you decide to tell yourself what a failure you are to stop yourself.  Remember what you have accomplished.  And always remember that

The only way you can fail is to QUIT.   So don’t.

Now it is your turn.  Share what progress you have made in your thinking, attitude, education, and/or weight change.  Remember – this applies whether you are trying to gain or lose weight.  Leave your comments!

Also, I have started a forum at I have started a new forum on weight loss and weight gain. Come join in http://groups.myspace.com/betheweightyouwant.  It is on MySpace.com, so be sure to add me as a friend also.

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How Do You Handle an Eating/Diet Slip or Binge?

Monday, September 8th, 2008

You had a slip on your diet/eating program; you went on a binge; you ate something off your eating plan.  What do you do?  The course you choose can make a big difference in the progress of your weight loss journey.

Let’s look possible reactions:

Quit the diet. Yes, you could do this.  Isn’t this the way you have reacted in the past?  If you have, then consider this.  Did you set yourself up to fail?  Were you looking for an excuse to quit?  What is going on in your life at the moment?  Are you depressed, disappointed. lonely, angry?  Are there a number of stressful situations in your life?  Is one or more of your hunger craving triggers present?  If so, you need to totally re-think why you started your weight loss journey and revisit your self-image.

Have your reasons for starting the diet been fulfilled?  Have they changed?  Are you now the healthiest you can be?  Will more weight loss make you feel healthier, fitter, increase your self-confidence?

Now is the time to start over – not on the diet, but on the thought process.  Analysis what is going on.  Realize what your normal reactions are, then choose to respondThe definition of crazy is continuing to do the same thing expecting different results. If quitting hasn’t worked in the past, why would you expect it to now?  Think about different ways to respond to the binge trigger.  Remember you are responding to the trigger, not the binge.  People can give you hints and advice on what to do, but only you know what will work best for you ; only you can do it.

Start again  tomorrow or next  week. On the surface this looks like a good idea.  Pick yourself up and start again, making a starting point.  I have just realized that this does not work for me.  If I decided to start again the next day, I continue to binge the rest of that day – eating this and that which I will deprive myself of tomorrow.  Do you see the two pitfalls here?  I give myself an excuse to continue binging plus I use the word deprive which sets the scene for the next binge.  I have to remember that I am not depriving myself, I am choosing not to eat certain types of foods to enable myself to progress towards the goal.  I need to remember that my progress is a series of choices, not a list of deprivations.

Start again immediately. Now we are on track.  What do you do if you trip on a crack in the sidewalk?  Do you sit there until the next day?  Do you pick yourself up and intentionally trip on every crack on the sidewalk until the next day?  No – you pick yourself up and continue down the sidewalk, being a little more careful not to trip on the cracks.

Stepping up your activity/exercise to offset the slip/binge, at least for a few days.  What a concept.  Stepping up your activity/exercise to offset the slip/binge?  Whoa.  You mean I can actually do something positive other than picking myself up?  Yes – this is the best recourse.

What should we do when we fall off the eating program wagon?  Start the eating program again, immediately and then step up our activity/exercise to offset the binge.    Sounds simple, doesn’t it?  Also, we need go through the questions in the quit the diet section to better understand why we slip/binge.  The better we understand ourselves and our eating triggers, the easier it is to respond to the trigger rather than to react.

So, what do you do when you slip or binge?

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